frumladygit:
You don’t have to change your ATTITUDE, it sounds like you have to change the LOGISTICS.
From another thread it sounds like you are Lubavitch. They are VERY stringent about making food from scratch. This sounds like what your issue is. Call Rabbi Friedman in St. Paul and ask what can he recommend to make things easier while remaining faithful to Lubavitch customs.
Hatzlachah!
BTW maybe drink only DECAF it makes people more relaxed!! Obviously NOT Starbucks 🙂