Just because someone is not in Kollel doesn’t make him not frum. (Which some people seem to think unfortunately.)
That’s pure slander. Not once, since this site started, has anyone ever said anyone who isn’t in kollel is frei because of that. Link to one post that claimed that. There is none.
Indeed, no one anywhere takes such a position, in any frum society. That kind of comment is a strawman used to attack the Torah world.