Ok- I understand your point. some of my sarcasm was misunderstood.. haven’t figured out how to italics….
My main point was I was tired of the blame being put on women. There are numerous shiurim being given on women’s requirements. I have not seen any signs for, nor heard from family members, about rabbonim being so adamant about men and shmiras anayim.
About sheitels- that debate can go round and round. I do not want to get into that whole question- many sefardim hold that even if not wearing a newer sheitel that they must wear a hat on top of it. Chasidim hold you must wear “double deckers” as I have heard them referred to.
But I have heard rabbonim in effect say that women should wear bags as clothing to make sure that it isn’t too tight. I am sorry- I have a right for people to see I am not a size 63 when I am a size… (not getting into THAT). Men should not be turned on by the fact that i show about what size I am. I am not saying skin tight clothing. In the same note, I have heard rabbonim say women don’t belong out of the house.period. so how are we to support our husbands?>!?!?
Bottom line- too much pressure put on women and not enough put on men.
By the way- I edited this because I accidently clicked submit.