First of all, Helpful, who appointed you the arbiter of what halachically entitles a woman to a divorce? Do you think that it might not be possible that this woman is filled with shame at whatever her husband did to get put in cheirem? Maybe as a result, she feels she can no longer live with him, and does not want her children exposed to his bad middos? You and I do not know the circumstances (and it is not our business), but l’kaf zechus, she may have VERY compelling reasons to want and deserve a Get from him. I would be disgusted with such a man, unless he was totally innocent of any wrongdoing, which is not very likely, as people do not generally put others in cheirem on a whim.
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