Oh and for the b’show / dating process I want to add that by most chassidishe young people who follow the 1 or 2 meetings -and -get engaged.. there’s a huge fear of saying “no” to the boy or girl after a bshow, and many couples get engaged despite a lack of chemistry/attraction. And lots of them live forever in loveless marriages, although there could technically be “shalom bayis”. ( in other words: not overly happy, yet not bad enough to leave..)
so although some posters will say “I’m happy, other chassidish people are happy etc..” Yes. I also B”h know lots of happy chassidish couples, but it is mostly luck. but not proof of a better system.