wow…this thread frightens me! when i was contemplating divorcing my abusive spouse, i was told that my sons would have a hard time with shidduchim if i get divorced. why should they suffer in their marriage after watching their mother suffer in hers?! i finally said my son’s will have to marry open minded girls from accepting families and i do guide them and provide healthy and stable and beautiful marriages for them to see and learn from and one day emulate.
and by the way, marrying from a divorced home? maybe that child is a better person for it. when my son picked up a hand to hit me, saying “why can’t i hit you? daddy does it all the time to you!” i immediately (though it was 6 years after the wedding) asked for a get and bH got it quickly. the message to my son? never hit, never hurt another person. so yes, his mother is divorced and sadly, proud of it.