Reply To: This week's Yated Shidduch Forum…

AZ

i totally and completely agree with you!!! the system is broken!! i for one do not contact a shadchan at all hours because i know they are a mother/wife/daughter/sister and in general a person who deserves privacy and respect…. but all i ask is that the girls who feel bad enough already to be treated like a person too and in my experience with shadchanim i can tell you that that is not the case…. i once went to a shadchan who literally gave me a lookdown before even talking to me… i saw her head and eyes going over my body, hair, eyes etc…. it was humiliating… and for the record i never went out with someone set up by a shadchan i went to…. i understand that they might be trying but all i want is to feel like a person not a piece of land that is being sold… and asking for money does just that…. the only reason i did it is because this shadchan came highly reccomended and i thought it would be different but it has been the same… but i DO agree with everything you said!!