GAW:
To clarify: my concept is NOT about shadchanim who charge a fee to meet, it’s compensating after they set up a quality date.
1. It is for this reaon why this plan is being implemented on a community, shul, classmates level. That way it doesn’t factor in a decision whether to go on to the next date.
2. The slightly older girls will always have the advantage because all things being equal it is the slightly older girls who will be ready to compensate for date date #2/#4
3. It is NOT a lot of money. The community that has implemented it has been excastatic with the results and the small amount of money it has cost.
4. most girls are married before they date 7 guys of which maybe 3 of them go to date #4. you do the math. maybe 2k for the entire dating career? that’s a very very small price to pay to get to the chuppah….
Simplyl put it works and it will be come the new way of doing things. Be proud you’ll be able to say you heard about it early on in CR….