Reply To: Sister's husband keeps her away from family

Trying my best – no I am not overreacing. She IS happy – happily enjoying her marriage B”H (which I am happy about) and her husband’s side of the family. When we speak we enjoy it but that’s it. They don’t make any effort to be more involved in our family or for us to be more involved in theirs…

Yes it is her husband keeping her away. It’s been clear. Like if they come to my town for something they don’t have time to stop by and see the kids (even for a minute)…But they’ll go to his side or meet his friends all the time…And of course I will not mix into their Shalom Bayis – that’s why I won’t tell her anything.

And as for keeping distance from our parents – good for you that you never needed to know such a concept. But under the circumstances of our family, Rabbanim and therapists have encouraged it. We need the distance for our sanity and Shalom Bayis. Also, when a woman is married, her husband comes before her kibud av v’eim. But thanks for trying to decide Hashem’s rewards and punishments for others…