bjjkid, I suspect you are about a generation younger than I. I’m really curious. In high school and seminary, what would you say was given more weight: the role of the woman as mother and akeres habayis and facillitator of her husband’s learning, or the role of the woman as facillitator of her husband’s learning in kollel with lip service or no mention of her role in the family?
If you’re up to a homework assignment, I would be intrigued by your reaction to the article Chemotherapy as Metaphor (you can probably find it by googling).