All three of my daughters’ children had this problem AND tonsils, HUGE tonsils. The one who WE thought needed it the most, the surgeon said she didn’t need it. The kids were miserable getting sick all the time.
It is not so simple, that the Pediatrician just sends you to the surgeon and the surgeon schedules the operation. With my grandkids, the consultations went on for more than a year with each. The Surgeon watched the issues with each child until he decided whether or not the child really needed the procedure. No surgeon takes the risk of putting a child under anesthesia unless they are sure.
At any rate, when he did my granddaughter when she was 2 1/2, we were also concerned that she wasn’t talking much. He said as soon as he put in the tubes a ton of fluid came pouring out. The night of the surgery when I went to be with her at home. She started talking to me clearer than ever. I was in shock. Her clogged ears were keeping her from hearing properly and speaking and we didn’t even make the connection.
My grandson had to have it done twice because the tubes came out on their own. Both of them had their tonsils out as well. But the sister in the middle whose tonsils look like they touch each other, the surgeon said, she will outgrow it.
Find a surgeon you trust and work with him. If the mod allows me to post our surgeon’s name just ask and I will do so. Just one more thing, I don’t want to make this sound so easy. It is not a difficult procedure for the children, for the parents even a few stitches on a child’s finger is major. So take your tehilim in hand and refuah sheleimah. Hatzlocha.