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The way you choose to read my post is up to you.
It is very clear from my wording that I have a problem with Shadchanim who treat girls like merchandise. I never said I have a problem w Shadchanim who “havent hit it right” as you put it. It is those Shadchanim that should be applauded! The ones that keep trying, even though they may not have gotten it right on the first few tries. The Shadchanim who care enough to return calls and emails. The ones who realize that being single is hard enough without making you feel like they are doing you the worlds biggest favor by speaking to you, these are Shadchanim deserving the title Shadchan.
The people who tell you to leave messages on their machines only to get the recording that the mailbox is full. The people that you have to call every day for three months until you get an appointment and when you are *granted* 10 minutes of their time 8 of them are spent dealing with XY & Z. The ones that label a girls worth by her fathers bank account. The ones who’d rather make a “quality” shidduch. The ones who charge up front.
These arent Shadchanim these are Business Men/Woman who are working in the matchmaking industry, because lets face it, if youre good there is money to be made.
So dont tell me its thankless and youre overworked, because thats your job. Most people in America will tell you that they feel under appreciated and under compensated at work, but this is the profession you chose.