I second Health – I know someone whose kid had surgery and it was no picnic. Get second and third opinions on: A) is the surgery really necessary or are there alternative treatments such as physical therapy, etc.? B) Double and triple check the surgeon. Have they been sued for malpractice? Do they have lots of experience doing this specific kind of surgery? Can you talk to someone who’s had that operation from that surgeon?
Suffering oneself isn’t pleasant. Ch’v watching one’s child suffer as a result of one’s own oversight would be terrible.