oomis – like i said, I walk the girl to the door but I don’t think it is boorish not to. I am sure there are some guys who don’t do it because they are boors. However, if the guy was told by a rebbi to not do it since it is a tznius issue (whether you, the posek hador, oomis1105, disagrees or not), the guy is not being boorish by not doing it. I am sure it makes the girl feel good to be walked to the door. And what if it makes her feel good to get a good-night kiss? should he do that? after all, most people in the world (goyim, but the walking to the door is also something that started with them; most likely in the hopes of kissing the girl good night at the door or being invited in for a cup of coffee) think a good night kiss is very chivalrous. I understand that you don’t want to back down on this one but there are numerous things that a girl or guy PREFERS on a date which, in their absence, don’t qualify the offender as a boor. Again, why not wait and be a mentsch yourself by asking him politely on a 3rd or 4th date why he didn’t do it? After all, when you get married, whether you are a guy or girl, there will be times your spouse will displease you in ways far more offensive than not walking to the door (I repeat, making sure she is safely inside is MANDATORY because of safety). How will you handle these offenses then? better learn how to have a conversation now.
Also, to all those that say it is more awkward to know the guy is watching every step to the house, I hear you. Everyone feels different about it and I think the right thing to do is (assuming no other mitigating circumstances exist), do what you think will make the other person feel good.