This post as gone way off subject.
Allow me to remind you all that this post was originaly about shalom bayis. It has been hijacked by tznius issues.
I just wanted to mention, that the actual B&W halachos of tznius are few and far between. Most of it is hergush – personal feelings. For examlple, find me the halacha that one should not call a strange person of the opposite gender by their first name. You wont find it. Most People wont do it. Why not? Because it doesnt feel right. it creates familiarity
Most “harchokos” are as a seyog to avoid problems, as are a lot of hilchos Tznius.
I may be wrong, but this is my take on the subject.
Perhaps we could return to original subject or close this one before we have explosions?