(I wrote this on a different thread but I think it’s important to say the same thing here.)
Hashem created the world that way. Woman (even if they’re not committed to him yet) try to “fix” their men. “You should do X. Why can’t you clean your Y? You never do Z! etc
Not only that women will analyze things that guys never in a million years think are important or relevant.
When my wife and I were dating I scratched my nose after I said something (because it ITCHED). She thought I was communicating some kind of distaste for her. She proceeded to go home and talk about and analyze it with her friend for THREE HOURS! I of course wasn’t even aware that anything had happened to begin with.
Now men on the other hand don’t want to be fixed. They are very comfortable with who they are. If you ask a woman what her faults are she will give you a long list of what she has to work on (another thing that Hashem created women with – they walk around with this idea of the “Perfect Woman” – who doesn’t exist by the way – and compare everything they do to what “she” would do.
Guys don’t give it a second thought – but their wives sure know what they have to work on!
Also VERY IMPORTANT FOR GUYS TO KNOW. This is why you should NEVER CRITICIZE YOUR WIFE! I guarantee you she already knows whatever fault you think you’ve seen. What she needs is for you to love and accept her AS SHE IS!
This is of course the great test of marriage – but when used correctly for both husband and wife they can grow closer then any other relationship imaginable.