TBT: thanks for the therapy….
not sure why you would hire someone to do the work, but you can try it… I would suggest simply reach out yourself and make known that you appredciated ppl’s time and efforts and in recognition for that you are ready to compensate for results. The people receiving the gelt have no pressure (and they prefer it that way) and the person paying – only pays for results.
If you think by paying up front you will have some on retainer, by all means go for it. If you are interested in somone who has been there/done that/ FYI-it doesn’t work.
in addition, somoneone who is presently a shadchan will not spend theier time networking for you to find other shadchanim. A shadchan redds shidduchim, if they were singles advocates trying to get you attention from other shadchanim then they aren’t doin what they want to be doing.
Having a friend/relative/ connected person reach out on your behalf to shadchanim and let them know how much you appreciated their time and effort…
yeah that works, just ask the communities that are doing it with tremendous success..