yid.period: I also wonder if one of the reasons why we have a shidduch crisis might be attributed to the fact Boys & Girls put to much emphasis on the chetzones and not on the pinemeas?
We all read the stories of the gedolim and their spouses but do we internalize them? Did Rabbi Akiva’s wife ask if he wore a black hat or yechus? Is it better to be single than marry a great guy who is a talmud chachum but does not wear a hat?