This thread is getting old and going no where. It highlights the diversity of Jews and different minhagim. There will always be people who think a black hat is what makes a person frum and holy and there will always be those who disagree with that. There are those who feel lakewood is the derech and those who feel lakewood is a bunch of lazy good for nothing mooches. There are those who think Moshe Rabaynu wore a shtriemel and their sect is going straight to Gan Eden while all others are “modern” and going to Gehanim. As such, there will always be girls who look at the hat and forgot about what is under it and those who could not care less.
As long as each person understands that they are no better or worse than the other, I and G-d do not care what you wear or don’t wear. Wear the black hat, or don’t wear it. Wear the Shtraimel or don’t wear it. Wear the Kippah Serugah or don’t wear it. Sit and learn all day or go to work. Do whatever you feel is best for you and be happy with your choice but don’t try force down other people’s throat.
I am sure Hashem will be happy with your choice as long as it leads to a better life and derech to hahsem.