anon1m0us~ I am hearing you loud & clear on both your points.
#1. My DH & I are tired! B’H, all the children are married; we love having them for Yom Tovim, but we’re now B’H in our ‘golden years’ & it’s harder!.. to clean (altho’ I can’t do much & have hired help), & I do all the cooking myself beforehand so that I don’t havta be exhausted from preparations; the children help make some things, like Pesach lukshen, salads, etc. My daughter’s in-laws are again this year going to a hotel in Florida, so they’re coming to us. My son’s in-laws are in Israel, so they’re coming in from Monsey to us. My other daughter has a family, but lives walking distance; they’ll come for a Seder, iy’H, & we’ll keep a grandson or two for longer. My son & his daughter will be here the first or last days, plus. BUT– I KNOW my children would definitely NOT begrudge my DH & I going away, & I’d go in a heartbeat if it was affordable. B’H, we’ve had many great years together & we’re very close, so it’s not like we wouldn’t have plenty of other times, iy’H, to be together.
#2. My DH is a retired Mashgiach (not by choice, but because companies want to hire @ the lowest pay they can.) He always felt a great achrias for his work. We were able to go to a hotel for Succos years ago & altho’ we didn’t see him all that much because he was so dedicated to his work, it was a fantastic experience. And if you trust the heksher & Rav Hamachshir of the place you’ve chosen to go to, & if other mashgiachim are as machmir as my DH, you should not have to worry about the kashrus. Otherwise, don’t mish.