Reply To: Chutzpa is not a ??? ??? ??????

Right, so we disagree.

I say that the mitzva of kavod for someone is for my benefit, not for their benefit. The fact that it inures to them is incidental, as far as they are concerned.

If I have to have kavod for a sefer torah, the sefer torah should not feel slighted.

A parent or rebbi is just the cheftza that my mitzva is chal on.

Accordingly, I think that if a parent or rebbe is insulted, it is their bad middos. (and in the case of the rebbe, maybe he is not really worthy of respect anymore, but lets not get sidetracked.)

I’m not really sure where you get from there being a mitzva to respect, to the object of respect being able to be ???? it and be insulted if it is not offered.