Everyone deserves to be married to someone who finds THEM attractive. No one should feel their spouse merely settled for them. That’s a terrible feeling. The problem is with today’s emphasis being put on the MOST superficial examination of physical attributes, to the point that unless a girl is a specific number size, or the boy is a certain number in height, or even the MOTHERS of these two meet certain physical criteria, that some people are refusing shidduchim that might otherwise be wonderful for them.
It used to be that a boy and girl were redt to each other, and based on very casual information, the date was made. It worked – great, if not, on to the next one. Now, people are demanding such EXACTING details of minutiae about both parties, that many shidduchim are actually not ending up being redt at all. And that is a crying shame. Do we REALLY need to know when the boy or girl toilet-trained?????????