so mod 80 what should i do?
you should be selfish
you should think about yourself and your Neshamah, and not worry about them, worry about yourself.
you should remove the power you have given them to control your thoughts and emotions
you should realize it is a test
you should be overly nice and not critical of them and talk to them in this manner seeing if they can help you
if this fails you should continue to realize it is all in the hands of Hashem
you should calmy think about what steps you should take as Hishtadlus
you sould getthe advice and counsel of a Talmid Chochom
you should not lose your temper but calmly listen to his advice even if it doesnt seem fair to you
you should speak to the building manager if you have to
you should still continue to be friendly with your neighbor and make it clear that you see their side but hopefully they can see your side as well
you should keep smiling when talking to them
you should not give others the power to push your buttons
you should learn the mussar of hatred and revenge
YOU SHOULD STUDY AND THINK DEEPLY INTO THE WONDERFUL WONDERFUL GIFT HASHEM BESTOWS ON THOSE THAT OVERLOOK THE WRONGS DONE TO THEM, EVEN WHEN THEY ARE RIGHT!
you should think about the bigger picture
you should remember that this world is only a fleeting preparation for the real world
you should learn the mussar of controlling your anger
you should daven to Hashem to guide you in how you should handle this situation
you should daven to Hashem to help you acquire true Emunah and Bitochan