You have to be the one to be realistic that all is from Hashem. Daven, daven, daven that you end up with a mentch because that is the key to a good marriage. Don’t feel that the grass is greener on the other side. People can put up a good show. Money helps and is important but what is it worth if you end up with someone who makes you account for every penny? If you want to know the truth about dreams, listen to Rabbi Yossi Mizrachi’s lecture on dreams, which does not include marriage!!! Hatzlocha Rabba on your venture. Listen to your parents but if you feel they are not hearing you, talk with them, at a corredt time and nicely let them know your feelings.Even if you feel like screaming, bite your tongue and keep quiet.
If you feel they really are not capable of handling the situation, then discuss the situation with a Rav or reputable person, not with your friends or here in the CF where you don’t really know us and who we really are. We all sound nice and normal and sensible too but some of us may be phonies!!!