“you would be amazed at how many people do not have a Rov they consider their Rov….and do not feel a specific kesher to the rov. “
As I’m amazed at how many people smoke. Not a sudden death, but surely not a healthy way to go thru life.
“what school or camp to send a child to”
And this, you would entrust to someone that does not know you / your family / your child on a personal basis? That would be like trusting a shadchan to choose a shidduch for you.
The only way to reach a determination of this scope (other that ruach hakodesh) is to know the people involved.
Asey l’cha Rav. Not my idea, but it appears to be a good one!