My friend who has an only child lost this child to the most uncooperative machatonim. Her son was what is considered a top boy. Her daughter in laws sister is a shadchon who can even sell the Brooklyn Bridge. Although her son said “NO” after the second date, he was conived to continue till the shidduch happened. My friend and her husband with the help of her father ended up footing 98% of everything.The machatonim said we didn’t need this and that, when they really do. When my friend bought her daughter in law gift, she later saw the mother with the gift who claimed the daughter did not like it. At this point the machatonim have brainwashed her son against them. The son being immature says that he is following Daas Torah.Even though the boys side pay for 98% of everthing, it is the machatonim who tell them how to spend money and direct their lives. It is as if the daughter in law is the only child. I will end with this, that it is up to work things out before any shidduch is finalized. At the engagement everyone is excited and many times the most important things are overlooked. Being an only child is not a factor it’s the people you are dealing with.
This couple recently moved back to U.S.A. with the girls side making all arrangements.They claim they can no longer help financially after three years.Even during this time they kept about 30% of what they said they would. If the kids came for Yom Tov they expected them to pay for the tickets by renting their apartment. When my friend had to pay for the ticket it had to be money up front.
Going back to return to America, my friend was told what part of the furniture they should buy while from the girls side they are giving the couple bedroom and dining room that is 40 years old.They were also told howmuch rent they will pay.
My friend has tenants who moved but behave like children to her. We friends told her to write a will and leave all to them, as they are the ones who treat her as parents!!!..