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there cannot possibly be a blanket rule on such a grey area-what if the man is simply nasty

Ask your Rov, right away. Until you have a case specific heter, assume none exists. Its Just like all our other responsibilities, lets use Esrog as an example; we aren’t exempt until we have a case specific heter.

BTW, Hashem decides what is or isn’t right/degrading.