“Maybe go out for pizza. Buy her a certificate to have her nails done or something.”
Now THAT did not sound condescending at all.
“How are you defining kedusha? Kedushah comes from the word to “separate”. How is there “separation” in your proposal?
The way to “ELEVATE the occasion” is by making it “separate” and by extension kadosh.”
I believe I mentioned separate seating (for those who would be very troubled by family-style seating). Both parents brought the child into the world. Both should be able to shep the nachas. JMO (and apparently that of others, as well).