truthbetold: i was dating in my late 20’s and the guys i saw – good, Lakewood guys who must have dated 100’s of girls really were depressed – you could see it. i know because i also was there. luckily (obviously, with b’tziata deshmaya), i got renewed strength, did maximum hishtadlus and maximum tefillah, and Hashem had my zivug find me (who for various reasons had barely dated, so he came in with a lot of energy and interest). the answer is that they also should really think about what they’re looking for and do better research (not necessarily into nitty gritty, but into things that are of importance to them).
apushatayid: of course a person should be mature enough to handle some disappointment, but do you have any idea of what it’s like to be dating (whether you are a boy or a girl) for 10 years, and trying to go out each time with the same optimism that started with when one was 20?!? would you tell someone with fertility problems that if they were old enough to get married, they should be mature enough to handle the disappointment of not becoming pregnant each month? that’s what dating for many years is like for many people.