Adorable: “so when I have something to kvetch about (yes every single person has things to complain about some times) would he rather me go talk to my friends about it and keep him out of it. I think he would want to hear and work through it with me.”
Not at all. Of course he would want to hear when something’s bothering you.
But he doesn’t have to be met with a grumpy face as he walks through the door. Put on a smile, wait until he has relaxed a bit and then discuss what’s on your mind.