geshmak has a very valid point. i see this all over the place nowadays.
mothers pushing little ones in strollers while talking or texting. the little one is not getting the attention. the person on the other end of the phone is. it is happening inthe playgrounds as well. children no longer get undivided attention. i see it upstate during the summer too.
some parents want to have ”me” time when they get upstate. they want to go walking, go to the gym, shop with their friends. they are disinterested inwhat the children are doing.
you need to be involved in your childs life.
the husbands come up for the weekend and they go to wine tasting onegs friday night. shule on shabbos, kiddush hopping shabbos after mussaf and then they sleep all shabbos afternoon fromthe booze.
give your children the attention they need from you. be available to them at all ages. whether they are coming from kindergarten, high school or college. keep an ear available for them when they are married as well.
thats what parents should be doing. you dont just pop out the baby and think you dont have to nurture them. it doesnt work that way.