I was the “teen at risk”. I didn’t show it outwardly but in my heart and mind there were thoughts…lots of ’em. B”H, I am now a total “observant teen”. BUT it took some time to get to what I am today. I come from a very choshuv and frum family – with lots of restrictions. I go to a very frum school where questions regarding Emuna is like “huhhhh???” (I got ALL my answers elsewhere. The answers are there. If you’re sincere and truly want to find the emes, you will. Good school or not.) And yet, these WERE NOT THE REASONS TO MY (ALMOST)GOING OFF.
In my case, I had a friend who had a bad influence. And the friend? Why is she going OTD now? Cuz her parents are abusive, AND she is emotionaly unstable.
Abuse and restrictions are two completely different entities. When you do it leshem Shomayim, the kids stay frum. I’ve seen it happen many many times! There are people with WAYYY more restrictions than our’s and ALL their kids are doing fine.