Reply To: what's better: to be humble, OR mar'eet ayin?

someone told me that you have to be honest with yourself, if it really is maris ayin, or is it for your own kavod,

is the thing that your doing (chesed) more important than your kavod? if it is then you don’t say anything.

What qualifies for maris ayin? and are you allowed to depend on ppl to be dan l’kaf zechut in this case?