“ill find myself standing at the front, and a bunch of satmar women will just walk right in front of me, ask how much is this and then proceed to pay, whilst im clearly there at the front of the cue”
As a limud zchus, I’d like to point out that frum culture, particularly chareadi/chassidish culture, has been heavily influnced by the (to put in nicely) more informal Israeli culture.
A Rebbi of mine once told over a story from one of his first days in Israel, when somebody walked over to him and shoved him in the back so hard he almost fell. Turning around, he was shocked to see the man just keep walking as though nothing had happened. But after this happened several times, he came to the realization that this was the Israeli way of saying “excuse me”.