One thing you do need to think about and act on now, is start being consistent about where you daven, and if you’re out of yeshiva, where you learn at night.
Nothing says more about a person than predictability and visibility. From what you’ve said about your relationship with your parents, putting down roots in a specific place will help you overcome any negative vibes people may have (and trust me, they will have them).
Prove them wrong by showing how stable you have been over the next few years.
Oh, and a word about looks. When the connection is right, you will see the looks take a serious back seat to the other considerations. Be mindful of the way you dress as far as being neat. Labels mean little, so don’t get hung up on that. Put your best foot forward and let your personality do the talking for you.