“if Chas v’ Shalom you’re made to wait until you’re 30”
“you do have a lot of work to do until you completely grow up.”
I agree with the 2nd line, but 30?!
Bomb – if you’re working at a decent job (part or full time) and are on track towards a full time job, you will do most of the growing up you need to do by the time you are 22-24. The rest of the “growing up” you / your wife need to do will take place over the next 20-30 years.
Don’t for one minute accept or contemplate the 30 year mark. If you are focused (and it sounds like you are) you will be ready to get married sooner than you think. There is nothing wrong with being young. Its also wise, (once you are ready to start dating) to look for someone who is within a year or two of your age. That way, (with your work experince) you’re on the same maturity level as your spouse.
Set your goal for your early to mid-20s and you will b’ezras hashem see solid results.