But Hudi, questions like that are meant for a rav or rebbetzin. There is nothing to be ashamed of for wanting to follow halacha. Better a rav that is familiar with you (and your “spiritual level”), but if you are too uncomfortable for that, then there are plenty of anonymous hotlines that you can call.
Every extra step you take towards doing the right thing, will only increase your schar! Don’t waste issues like that on the cr.