DaasYochid, Both of those services do things that otherwise wouldn’t happen. And I did not intend to insult anyone. I know that Shadchanim work hard. All I wanted to do was state an issue that bothered me about it.
Rabbaim, if I grew my own food in my backyard, then indeed, I don’t need to pay anyone. But since when getting it from a supermarket, the food does not belong to me, I have to pay for it.
All I had a problem with is that everyone has a match that is predetermined, so I was really just wondering out loud how much a Shadchan helps. I did not mean to hurt or insult anyone. If I did, I sincerely apologize.