One thing that many people dont know is that its not a chessed to help someone who doesnt really need your help at all and can do the thing on their own but are just lazy and want someone else to do it for them or help them. It isnt a chessed to enable someone to be a user.
I’m not advocating using someone or allowing oneself to be used but isn’t a part of Chessed to improve ones middos? (So whether the person is capable of doing something for themselves or not wouldn’t really have anything to do with my doing the Chessed.)
Welcome back btw.