happy – thanx for the awesome poem!
yening yenta – i couldve written ur post. i feel EXACTLY the same way. but the thing with me is that im not STRICTLY looking for working. im open to either learning OR working. so then people tell me, “well no one is gonna set you up with a serious learning boy if you dont really want one” as if they are not gonna WASTE him on me. the thing is that if he is learning, i want him to learn because that is what he WANTS to do. not because everyone else is doing it, but because he thinks that its the right thing to do. but on the flipside, if he is working and has a strict seder, and is a mentch with good middos, and has all the qualities that will make him be the best husband and father, why is something wrong with that???? (also in my family there are both. learners and earners. and they all live amazing lives b”h). so sometimes i feel like this is an oxymoron. is it???