I have been lurking here for a bit and I want to add in my two cents.
To be personal, I feel like I am somewhat similar to the girl who MiddlePath is dating. Great family, who are financially secure (B”AH), known well in the community and I come across as if everything in life has been just dandy. Especially on dates.
However, I have a confession to make. Life wasnt smooth sailing…and still isn’t perfect. On the outside everything appears to be great, however on the inside, I have been struggling in quite a few different areas. Only if one knew me well, and I felt comfortable enough with someone, would you be able to tell. Boruch Hashem-and I am very grateful- I have worked on myself and I have come out much stronger, but not without much fighting. I am still overcoming obstacles. I also have dated a boy similar to MiddlePath, who I very much respected and saw things in HIM-not his family or background- that I admired. Really, in the Middos and sincerity department. And because of what he has been through, he is very strong.
MiddlePath-Even from just reading your posts, without having met you, I admire you and the strength you display from rising above life challenges. Your integrity and genuine personality is evident from you how you write. In my opinion, this girl will be very lucky if she ends up marrying you.