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I am sorry about your story. There are plenty of litvishe yeshivos that do not fit that description, unless you are leaving out pivotal details. In most of the yeshivos I have been to most of the fathers of the class work for a living, and there was certainly no personal ridicule. Obviously the yeshivos have an ideal, right or wrong, that everyone should stay in learning, and they will promote that ideal because they believe in it, but I have not seen much personal ridicule.
Perhaps they were wrong anyway. But just in the interest of trying to restore some peace to our nation, wouldn’t it be best that instead of saying that others have sin’as chinam and need to work on it, we just work on it ourselves? The test of a tolerant person is if he is tolerant to those who are intolerant toward him. And love can only breed where there is tolerance.