SB -“but I don’t think it plays such a large role. And I feel that a woman would be stronger if she didn’t have shalom bayis issues.”
It almost plays the role in its entirety. Almost never does this have to do with Shalom Bayis. Women have peer pressure no matter how good a marriage they have. You’re right though -they should be stronger and not cave in to the pressure.
It sounds like you’re completing a vicious circle. A lot of men when a tragedy occurs blame the women because they aren’t so Tzinius. Really they should look inward, instead of blaming. You’re doing the same thing by saying the women don’t dress Tzinus because of the men. They should look inward instead of blaming!