I don’t know about you but I find it very uncomfortable that men and women are chatting so casually on such a personal (read ‘non-generic posting’) level. If you met somewhere you would feel very close to each other, and I don’t see that as being a good thing. I have a friend who felt closer to the chat friends than the spouse and that was a big pull to ending the marriage. Sounds extreme but if you talk to some local MSW’s and rabbeim you will hear that it isn’t.
Not ‘mussar-ing’ just concerned.