Guys, enough mussar both ways about the importance of writing with good grammar and the importance of not focusing on good grammar. The writer posted a question he would like answered. We’re all here because we want to help each other. Take it from someone who’s posted several times: the writer waits with bated breath for help. Everyone’s answers are meaningful, whether responded to or followed or not. Just seeing responses on topic can make a person feel better knowing people cared enough to take the time to try to help them, and they are not alone.
It’s not coincidental that of everyone out there, we’ve found and logged on to this website. We all have something important to offer by way of being there through humor and kindness.