PrincessEagle: where’s the beauty of being frum??????
First of all, I’m an 18 year old girl and the rav you asked is obviously older and wiser and well versed in the Torah – which I’m not. All I can say, is that life, frum or not has no’s. You cannot ALWAYS do as you wish even if you’re not frum. And life is not easy, whether you’re religous or not. So what’s the difference? The difference is that you get schar when you sacrifice something for Yiddishkeit. And I don’t only mean schar in the World to come, but schar in this world, too. The feeling of contentedness, of a goal, of a purpose is beyond compare.
Tznius is the essence and beauty of a Bas Yisroel. To me, tznius is truly my korban to Hashem. I feel like I’m giving away something so dear to me. Tznius is IMO, the most difficult nisoyon for a woman (especially girls in their later teens). When you give something up for tznius, it shows that you’re mature enough to accept a psak and you understand how sensitive men are to untznius women.
“a shame i’m too honest “
Nope. Absolutely not! The reward for being honest is that people believe in you. They trust you. Isn’t it worthwhile (besides for the schar)?
Good luck, and may Hashem grant you the kochos to be able to overcome this nisoyon.