i said so; I’m not saying it is very wise, i’m saying there are reasons. Though what if ones Bashert is a family friend, why should they avoid who they know is nice and are sure about the family and happy w/ them.
I will say this though, If it’s not something special, and you don’t feel the personality is such a match or don’t find them attractive, then it is foolish to get into s/t that has a weak potential for success and big potential for fights or hurt feelings.