dear old man,
I am far from ignorant about “what actually happens out there”. I receive numerous Sheilos daily in person on the phone and by email. I am constantly networking with contemporaries and consulting with senior Rabbonim.
I can tell you with absolute certainty that in Eretz Yisrael and in the USA when the issue arises in the chareidi veldt NO mainstream Poskim are permitting abortions unless there is a realistic threat to the mother’s life.