blaba, you’re right, they should be more sensitive..But it really would help them BECOME more sensitive if they knew even a little of what you are going through. When I was in High School, I had a teacher go around the room asking everyone what their father does and going into detail about him. When it came my turn, I quickly left the room and didn’t return for a while. (If your’e confused about this, read the “life as the son of a child molester” thread). I was angry at my teacher for being so insensitive. But really, how can I blame him? He didn’t know what my father was. After I told him privately, he was much more careful about what he said.
And try not to worry about shidduchim. I used to worry about it, because I thought I would never get a shidduch, but if you are the best person you can be, and realize that you have the potential to rise above and become greater from these challenges, you’ll have no problem with a shidduch, and life itself will be much better overall. I know it’s easy for me to say this, since I’m not in your shoes, but perhaps this can help a little.