there are so many wonderful girls being overlooked because “boys” and their parents are looking for the wrong “qualities” in girls.
As are the girls looking for a trophy husband. The only difference is that a trophy wife means being rich and pretty, while a trophy husband means being a top guy in yeshiva.
So, the girls get to disguise their pettiness in fake avodas Hashem and complain about the boys. While in truth, the girls just want to impress their friends and be part of the “kollel club”.
We just recently had a thread here where a girl was complaining that she could not find a guy in learning, even while admitting that it might be her avodas Hashem to marry a working guy. So what’s her issue? Friends.
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/totally-messed-up#post-293461
Consider the way a boys “market value” drops when he leaves yeshiva, even compared to boys who are still in yeshiva but planning to leave at the same time as him. (Imagine a 25 year old who learned 7 years versus a 23 year old planning to learn another 2 years.) If the girls want a ben torah, they should be the same. No, the girls want the kollel club.
So we’re all hunting for trophies to hang on our wall. Girls, don’t delude yourselves.